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Why are cervical orgasms considered so sought after in the bedrooms of the erotically empowered? Why do some people put cervical orgasms into the same category as the mythical Ogopogo? Cervical orgasms truly surpass the mere whispers of myth and live up to their status as a true legend. Well worth the effort and exploration to awaken cervical orgasms in your lives.

What is a cervical orgasm?

The cervical orgasm has been declared the ultimate Tantric orgasm. This is because these orgasms are able to open you to profoundly mystical experiences. The energy experienced in this process is able to naturally sublime all the way through the chakras up to the crown chakra and expand your consciousness. The beauty in this is that you are not allotted one per lovemaking session. A woman’s body is able to experience an unlimited supply of cervical orgasms and this ongoing experience awakens you to epic bliss.

The cervix is the entrance of the womb and when met with a man’s lingam there is a certain highly charged polarity phenomenon that we can sense with this penetrative gesture of the lingam meeting the cervix. Try tuning into this pure electricity of Shiva meeting Shakti.

The cervix has three main energy channels that wire it directly to the brain. Looking at her sister the clitoris we may note she has only one main channel linking her to the brain.  The Taoist’s also tell us that the cervix is directly wired to the heart in Taoist Sexual Reflexology. These orgasms open us to profound feelings of deep love and oneness.

So why is it that so many women prefer not to have their cervix’s touched? It is a really common area to experience pain or numbness and so many women have had a painful experience of the cervix being touched in a way that hurt and then typically avoid having it touched forever after. Once experiencing such sensitivity and pain women need the inspiration to explore the cervix again so they may continue their journey down the pleasure path and discover their unlimited potential.

The cervix is really the deep core of our feminine and holds our traumas and heartbreaks. Cervical orgasms can be profoundly healing as so much is stored within. Women typically may need to go through a cervical de-armoring process, or program, before the transition of previous pain can be experienced as pleasure. The cervix needs to be approached with sensitivity, love, presence and all the time she may need. Often the cervix may not reach her pleasure for 20-40 minutes so if a sexual encounter is only lasting for 10 minutes then she will never have the opportunity to know this pleasure.

The best way to de-armor your cervix is with a lot of love, patience and dedication. Self-pleasuring is a valuable approach. We need to really know our own bodies first. Using an obsidian wand is a good way to go with applying pressure in back and forth and circular movements to begin awakening her to sensation. You can anticipate that the pain may be present for some weeks and just to know your own limits of exploration and stay always connected to your dear ally the breath. With time the cervical pleasure will grow in intensity.

When it comes time for cervical penetration with your partner I will mention there is a true art to building the cervical orgasm to the point of “Oh my God it is going to blast my head off” quality. This is the art of taking great pleasure in adopting a rhythmic steady penetration with extreme awareness. The awareness is used with precision to feel the actual building of the orgasmic energy. What happens is that every time the lingam thrusts toward and taps on the cervix the energy of the orgasm builds a little more, she gets bigger and bigger with every thrust. These are thrilling moments of pure excitement feeling that orgasm building and knowing well she has the potential to send you straight through the cosmic gates at the moment of blast off. The art is knowing the threshold, building the orgasm in just the way that finally the lingam will move to meet the cervix again and find the anticipated pause, the resting moment when finally all that exquisite creative life force energy moves through the entire being in a high voltage journey to Divine Awakening. This is felt through the entire being and can be so profound that we may feel just simply to meditate in that expanded state of blissful consciousness.

I emphasize the point here to really pause and allow that cervical orgasm to be fully lived, there is no rush here. Enjoy this extraordinary wonder. If you start to thrust too quickly the orgasm will be robbed of her full expression.

My hope is that you will find some inspiration in these words and begin your initiation into the magical unparalleled world of cervical orgasms.



People are always inquiring about the secrets to amazing sex. What does it take to have earth-shaking, bed-breaking, spirit soaring, heart melting ecstatic tantric sex?

There is a constant longing to experience the next level of intimacy and the mythical sex lives of the Gods that we hear about. There are many ingredients being stirred into the cauldron to bring us the boon of legendary sex. Let’s focus on a key component, the breath.

The Breath and Sex

Quite simply every life form on this planet requires oxygen to live. Regardless if we live in the hot sweaty jungles or the cool crisp mountaintops we thrive on the oxygen delivered by our breath. Choosing to breathe deeply with awareness brings an energetic attunement to our bodies, hearts and spirits. This is part of the alchemical process that opens us to the depth of our selves.

We are born breathing from the very first moment we push through mama’s gateway and are initiated into human life on earth. It is the quality of breath that remains diverse for most people. The quality of breath reflects the quality of our sexual experience.

The power of our breath is far more than a simple key to brilliant sex, it is pivotal for thriving in life. Breath activates our life force.

I have memories of being jam-packed into the crowded Tokyo subways, every car overflowing with humanity. It was such an odd feeling of the unfamiliar bodies of the commuters intensely pressing against me and sensing the restricted rhythms and sounds of those breathing around me. It seemed as though they were gasping for life in the desperation of their daily routine. I used to fantasize about everyone taking a long deep breath together, what a different and extraordinary experience that crowded train would have been.

As a Tantric Yogini, it is fair to say that I have made an extended effort into the endless possibilities of the use of breath through the forms of pranayama and numerous other breathwork practices ranging from the sublime to the cathartic. There are unlimited effects on the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual levels of being. This helps us to shift patterns, get out of the mind, open the heart and crack us wide open. Through these practices I have reached all sorts of discoveries, seen profound visions, intensely rocked my kundalini energy, induced calm states of mind and surrendered into rapturous orgasmic bliss.

Yes, our breath can welcome us into deep orgasmic ecstasy, even in solo practice.

Breathe work for tantric sex

When we apply some of these breathing technologies to our lovemaking everything changes. Simply the more we breathe, the more we will feel. The more we feel the more we come fully alive. The art of extending lovemaking can be found in slow relaxed full breath. We can feel a lot more when we are connected to the breath and it gives us the chance to feel the energy in our bodies and to feel each other. When a man is approaching ejaculation he breathes in a very shallow way. By bringing attention to slow extended breath it helps to last longer and to dive into those extended orgasms.

There are many breathing techniques that we can play within our lovemaking. As a simple start, I recommend exploring some slow full breath. This does not mean everything has to be slow and that all sense of adventure shall be lost. Slowing and expanding the breath changes everything. The longer, deeper and slower the breath, the more you will be able to feel and the more possibility of expanding sensations, expanding orgasms.

Breathing deeply into your belly and pelvis area will help increase relaxation and tune into sensations. This allows feelings to build. Be sure to relax your jaw and really let go with every exhalation. Allow your breath to really enter you. Celebrate what a sensual and intimate experience breathing can be. The slower and more rhythmically you breathe during your lovemaking session, regardless of how fast you are thrusting, the more pleasure and sensation will circulate throughout your body. This is a simple yet powerful practice.

Developing the awareness of your breath in daily life will help it to become second nature.

Three of the essential keys to orgasm are breath, movement and sound. This is where we find our freedom in lovemaking through exploring and expressing these. Orgasmic states arrive when we consciously breathe, naturally move and shamelessly express our heart song.

For both men and women the breath is the portal to full body orgasmic ecstasy. Breath is our tool to deep exploration of self and other on this journey into the infinite realms of bliss.

Learn more about harnessing the power of your breath in this coaching program for couples.


I was recently sitting with a client that I have been working with for a little while. He is a thirty one year old virgin and I am guiding him to grow the courage and knowledge he needs for his first highly anticipated sexual experience. So I say to him, by the way it is not going to be anything like porn. He reacts with momentary surprise while physically expressing his shock with a small jolt and replying with a soft and slightly disappointed, “really?”

I explain to him how the idealized image he has experienced from porn is not what a woman truly desires at all. I remind him that porn is actually not real. I then began to reveal in more detail the art of touch, being truly seen and felt, the depth of heart connection, eye contact and the joy of pleasuring her to such extremes that her entire being should be inviting him in for penetration.

Fantasy Vs. Reality

This glimpse of reality seemed to shatter a level of fantasy he was holding. After that I was able to  awaken a much greater excitement within him for the limitless juicy potential of Sexual Union.

Every day we are hearing more stories about the impact of porn. As a Sacred Intimacy Coach I am observing it to be one of the hugest obstacles for sexual fulfillment in our time affecting both men and women.

The affects of porn addiction have been clearly surfacing. The younger generation has been raised on and educated by porn from an early age. Sadly some of these men have been robbed of their virility. A man’s sexuality is home for his masculine confidence. What happens to this man’s inner Shiva when he cannot actually perform with a real live beautiful, vital, sexy woman? Excessive porn use has led to the loss of performance with a real live Goddess.

We can see how men have been programmed to think of sex in a particular way and although it is not what most women want they have often managed to somehow just get used to it because it is what they typically find on offer. This leaves a woman dissatisfied and of course decreases her desire for sex. Inside she feels a deep longing for her unanswered cravings. With some artful cultivation men can awaken to the truth that they hold the key to nourish her desire, connect with her heart and open her to ecstasy. When a man is able to open a woman in this way it brings infinite fulfillment and confidence into his life.

The Bigger Picture

We can see that the way we are mistreating the earth is directly linked to the attitude toward the feminine that is frequently popularized through porn. It is a classic dance of the microcosmic/macrocosmic affect. If we look at the bigger picture holding hope for the survival of our species on this planet in the coming age and for the healthiest possible Earth than there is a drastic need to shift this distorted vision of the feminine.

Sure there is room in this world and your life for porn. Just be clear where your line with it is. Like many other addictions the question becomes how frequent is your usage? There is a difference between occasional viewing and an uncontrollable need for viewing.

Some men who choose to be in monogamous relationships state that porn helps to fulfills their desire for diverse flavour and maintain their committed relationship. I agree there are certainly conscious ways of using everything yet I recommend observing your habits with honesty.

Checking In

Check in if it is something you are hiding and lying about? We know that it is secrecy and lies that create shame which then lead to barriers in your sexual expression. Has your partner been trying to seduce you for days and instead of connecting with her you are turning to a quick fix with porn? Do you need to check out with a porn related fantasy in order to orgasm while you are making love with a real woman?

Once it has reached addictive levels it has begun to rewire the neural pathways of the brain. Porn is affecting the dopamine production and then affects the testosterone levels. We know that the testosterone affects the libido and loss of desire or the ability to have an erection even for young men. If you have been experiencing this and you have not known why you may want to consider making some changes and reclaim your sexuality to support you to thrive in this world.

The big question here really becomes how much is porn truly serving what you are wanting in your sexual life? Ask yourself and take the time to reflect. If you are finding that it is not serving you the way that you desire there are many avenues to approach for habit shifting that will require some dedication.

The Real Deal – Get Outside

A simple and pleasurable Tantric suggestion for those that have a sexual partner is to spend this summer making love outside as much as possible as an intentional offering for the healing of this Earth.

I recommend to anyone having a porn craving to alternatively jump in the car or on the bikes and head to the most beautiful quiet place you can get to with your Beloved. Go outside, make love, be free and go wild offering your creative energies as a prayer for the healing of the Feminine.

Replace this nagging craving with the real deal. Let your love song be heard through the valleys, canyons and forests this summer. Consecrate your lovemaking with purpose for this Earth that we call home. Simply take a moment to really consciously offer up your practice to the healing of the Feminine and to our Beloved Earth. If you manage to do this every day I guarantee you a fabulous summer.